everyone has their own frailty, and each other blind spot varies too.
what's yours? what's mine?
the ones who know it well are ourselves.
me, personally, not the kind of person who love to show my vulnerability. well, that doesn't mean I'm introvert. I'm quite loud & extrovert —some people said no, though. when I'm happy, you'll see my teeth keep showing up. when something bothers me, my eyebrows connected & I frown.
but hey, some of us have the superiority in hiding their feelings; and fortunately, I am one.
there are times when I don't want people know what's going on inside me, don't let them see what is in my head through my eyes. I keep putting on my happy mask, all smile, behave cheerfully; acting like everything's fine, although actually, something's wrong.
why am I doing that?
because for me, to be vulnerably exposed is scary.
there are people who are immoral enough to laugh above your suffering. I'm not thinking negative, but evil people do exist. they use your weakness to strike you down and that's what I'm anticipating.
on the contrary, showing your vulnerability has positive impact too.
by letting people know about it, you've indirectly told them that you're having a problem, you're weak or hurt, and you're doing the best you can. I believe people would understand, some might even help. but remember, you can't avoid the fact that you can't expect everybody to understand your vulnerability.
confused? me either.
so... vulnerability is something we should point out, or not?
share me your thoughts :-)
what's yours? what's mine?
the ones who know it well are ourselves.
me, personally, not the kind of person who love to show my vulnerability. well, that doesn't mean I'm introvert. I'm quite loud & extrovert —some people said no, though. when I'm happy, you'll see my teeth keep showing up. when something bothers me, my eyebrows connected & I frown.
but hey, some of us have the superiority in hiding their feelings; and fortunately, I am one.
there are times when I don't want people know what's going on inside me, don't let them see what is in my head through my eyes. I keep putting on my happy mask, all smile, behave cheerfully; acting like everything's fine, although actually, something's wrong.
why am I doing that?
because for me, to be vulnerably exposed is scary.
there are people who are immoral enough to laugh above your suffering. I'm not thinking negative, but evil people do exist. they use your weakness to strike you down and that's what I'm anticipating.
on the contrary, showing your vulnerability has positive impact too.
by letting people know about it, you've indirectly told them that you're having a problem, you're weak or hurt, and you're doing the best you can. I believe people would understand, some might even help. but remember, you can't avoid the fact that you can't expect everybody to understand your vulnerability.
confused? me either.
so... vulnerability is something we should point out, or not?
share me your thoughts :-)
i sometimes do what you do. Keep the emotion all inside just to avoid people laughing on our suffering. But dont use that mask all the time, i'm afraid it'll omit who we are unconsciously :)
ReplyDeletei think it takes a lot of courage for someone to be able to admit that he or she has a soft, vulnerable side.
ReplyDeleteand hey, there's nothing wrong with being vulnerable & honest anyway, right? for one's strength is not determined by how tough & indifferent he/she may appear on the outside, but it's what's really inside that actually matters in the end.
i'm sure you're already well on your way. :)
kudos!
ps: you have a great blog. keep it up! :)
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you're gonna get tired if you use the mask the whole time. i think,it's okay to point it out to people we trust cause we shouldn't keep it to ourselves. I think you already know about that one too :)
ReplyDeletewow wow, these comments, I'm overjoyed!
ReplyDeleteJJ's line really got me:
"...but it's what's really inside that actually matters in the end."
I can't agree more, but I also can't neglect that oftenly, people judge us only from the outside, right?
and what Hani & mba Fida said is right, to not using the mask all the time & point out our vulnerability to people we trust.
I like Ian's the most, why showing off sadness if we can spread the happiness?
but anyways, I believe everyone has their own way to react & behave, depending to their own personalities.. :-)
P.S: thank you for your time! I mean, to put away your activity & write down your thoughts here. I really appreciate it! ♥